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6 emotions you might have to deal with after divorce

Techniques that men can use to overcome a divorce was our topic of choice last week. That brings up an important point -- all divorcees go through a range of emotions during and after the divorce that must be worked through. Once these six emotions are worked through, you will be on your way to an emotionally healthy life.

The six emotions are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance and forgiveness. As scary as all of these sound, they are perfectly normal and can easily be dealt with through counseling.

Techniques men use to recover from divorce

Divorce hits both men and women very hard. In this article, we will discuss how men can find relief from the emotional turmoil and difficult times following a split. However, women might also find some nuggets of wisdom in the following techniques.

For men who have children, it is always important to remember that you have divorced your spouse, but not your kids. Your marriage has dissolved, but that does not mean that you are a man devoid of a family. Indeed, your children are still going to need you and desperately want you in your lives.

2 vital issues in a child custody disputes

Most Middlesex County child custody disputes that we handle at Novick & Meyers boil down to two essential issues: legal custody and physical custody. Legal custody refers to the kinds of decisions a parent is legally capable of making on his or her child's behalf. Physical custody (or parenting time) has to do with who the child lives with and who the child spends time with.

In some cases, a parent might advocate for full legal and physical custody of his or her children. In other cases, a parent might be happy to simply split these custodial powers with the other parent equally. Either way, when a child custody dispute becomes contentious, it can be scary for a parent -- especially if the parent is in danger of losing contact with his or her children.

2 things to keep in mind during your divorce proceedings

It might seem strange to think of any divorce as "successful," but if time, money and stress can be saved during the proceedings, then it is certainly a good thing. Indeed, we have all heard of costly, time-consuming divorces that drag on for years. Such difficult situations can sometimes be triggered by the smallest of disagreements, but with proper planning and the right mindset, most divorces can be managed in a way that honors both parties' rights and needs.

The first piece of advice has to do with educating yourself on the divorce process. No two divorces are the same. Just because your Aunt Marcy was able to keep the family dog in her divorce does not mean that you will be able to keep yours. Indeed, knowing what legal options are available to you in your unique situation could help you sidestep a host of problems, and this information should be explored well before you ultimately enter into the divorce process itself.

5 factors that can increase divorce rates in Massachusetts

There are many things that could trigger a Massachusetts divorce, like infidelity, dishonesty, money problems, drug issues or personality conflicts. However, Prevention magazine recently reported on five strange factor that might contribute to a divorce. If one or more of these factors apply to you, you might consider how it could be affecting your married life.

First, a commute that is longer than 45 minutes can be a factor in increasing divorce rates. This could be because spouses lose important family time together, and they get more irritable when they spend more time by themselves on the highway.

What are the negatives of same-sex marriage?

Same-sex marriage and the numerous states that have legalized it represent a giant leap forward in the name of civil rights. However, as some people who have been married are fully aware -- whether they are homosexual or heterosexual -- marriage does come with certain potential downsides. Therefore, it is important that couples recognize those potential downsides, particularly as they apply to same-gender couples, prior to formalizing their relationships through marriage.

Property division in divorce proceedings is one thing to consider before anyone decides to get married. When divorcing, regardless of whose fault it may be, you and your spouse may be required to divide the property the two of you acquired during the course of the marriage. In Massachusetts, the property division process is "equitable." This means that courts will seek to divide marital property according to fairness rather than making it a strict 50/50 division.

How does property division work in Massachusetts?

The most important thing to keep in mind when it comes to property division in Massachusetts is the term "marital property." Marital property includes all of the possessions, assets and interests that you and your spouse acquired during the course of your marriage. While there are some exceptions to this rule, marital property is the standard benchmark for asset division in the state. That said, whether or not specific types of property will be categorized as marital is subject to legal interpretation.

In the state of Massachusetts, marital property is divided equitably. This means that assets are not necessarily divided equally; rather, they are divided "fairly." Although most couples are able to come to a resolution on property division matters on their own without the need to go to court, in some cases, it is necessary to have a judge or arbitrator make the final decision in an unresolvable property division dispute.

Protecting the rights of high net worth individuals in divorce

Divorce is not an easy process for anyone, but it gets even more difficult for high net worth individuals. The more assets Massachusetts couples have, the more they need to employ various accountants and other professionals to perform legal and financial analyses.

When determining who has the right to particular assets, questions need to be asked to determine if the assets need to be split, or if they are individual assets that will go a particular spouse. For example, was the particular asset acquired prior to the marriage? If that is the case, then the property will likely be deemed an individual asset by the court, and the person who owned the property will not have to split it during divorce.

Rosie O'Donnell's estranged wife wants custody of their daughter

Comedian and television talk show host, Rosie O'Donnell is in the midst of a divorce with her estranged wife, Michelle Rounds. The divorce is beginning to grow contentious as Rounds is pushing hard for full custody of the 2-year-old daughter the couple share together.

According to Rounds, O'Donnell neglects their baby, has a lazy parenting philosophy and abuses marijuana and alcohol. According to one source, O'Donnell consumes a bottle of wine almost every night, and regularly uses marijuana for recreational purposes. Allegedly, she likes to smoke marijuana and snack on THC-infused food items. Furthermore, Rounds alleges that Rosie has allowed their 19-year-old son to host parties where underage alcohol consumption is taking place.

Establishing paternity in a Massachusetts child custody case

It was not always as easy as it is today to establish paternity in a Massachusetts child custody case. Twenty years ago, medical technology for genetic testing in paternity cases was still in its infancy. If a father wanted to prove in court that he was indeed the father of a particular child, a variety of inconclusive evidence would need to be submitted in court.

For example, fathers might need to bring forward witnesses who could vouch for the fact that he had a romantic relationship with the mother of his child. Receipts from gift purchase, testimony of friends, pictures, correspondence, phone messages and other evidence might have been submitted as evidence to prove the relationship. Also, blood testing was available, but still there was a margin of error with these methods and the facts were not always conclusive.

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